The ancient Greeks portrayed the goddess of luck in the form of a woman striving forward. But the head of the goddess always looked back. According to legend, those running for good luck must catch a brief moment when the goddess turns her head, and have time to grab her by the flowing hair. How to attract good luck? How to make sure that every chance turns only the happy side?
We admit right away: luck does not require special talents, and even more so genius. Quite often ordinary citizens are lucky, and there are many examples of this. Americans - they generally elevated a happy accident to the rank of a national dream. Ted Turner, Walt Disney, Henry Ford started from scratch. But each of them got lucky in time, in the end - money and success. And take the beggar Italian emigrant Sylvester Stallone! Or Steven Spielberg's hopeless Jewish boy with deuces in all his school subjects!
Luck does not choose who falls on the head - it is omnivorous and is given to everyone. Lucky chances are scattered before us. Another thing is that not everyone is able to notice them.
Hard life
They give flowers to their beloved woman, try to please, for her sake men are ready for all sorts of feats. So is luck - she needs to be cared for and cherished, to be fought for. Therefore, luck comes only to those who know how to work. Hard everyday work is a kind of challenge to luck. You can't wait for her on the couch. It only seems from the outside that everything falls from the sky to the lucky ones.
So tune in to hard work. If you need to go to computer courses or learn English to move up the career ladder, do not persuade yourself: they say, this place does not shine for me anyway. Remember: even Emelya - the personification of the people's dream of luck that fell on an idiot and a lazy person - nevertheless got off his stove to catch the magic pike.
Never mind the circumstances. Go forward, even if it seems that nothing good will be shown ahead. Do not hope that you, proud and lonely, who does not want to impose yourself with your undoubted talents, will be appreciated, invited, come running to you and torn off with your hands. It won't happen.
So don't wait for a lucky break. Use any moment to spur your career. Open all doors, even if you've just been kicked out.
Apple pie falling on your head
An American housewife once walked into a cafe and ordered an apple pie. The pie was not tasty, she cooked it much better at home. Being a meticulous lady (in our country they are usually called "every barrel a plug"), the American went to the kitchen and set her own recipe with the chef. As a result, she was hired as a dessert consultant. And after a few years, from a simple housewife, she turned into a co-owner of a whole chain of cafes and pastry shops.
Someone will say that the venerable lady was just lucky, But in fact, she made the case work for herself. After all, no one bothered her just to move the plate or make a scandal.
Hence another conclusion: luck requires a positive attitude. If in the morning you got up on the wrong foot and you do not like the weather outside the window, if you are annoyed by clingy children, and the dog gnaws at the slippers, know that nothing good will happen to you on this day. Everything will fall out of hand, and the deals calculated to the smallest detail will surely fail. When you chew on your own bad mood, you simply won't notice your luck. Your long-awaited contract will fail only because you have been seething with irritation for a negligent secretary for a long time and have not prepared for a meeting with your partner.
Therefore, every morning, force yourself to get up in a "fighting stance" of a happy person. Behave like a lucky guy who is doing just as well as possible (even when there is no particular reason for this), and believe me, you are really lucky - you, like a magnet, will attract good luck.
Luck chooses those who know how to measure desires and possibilities. Reckon with what nature has endowed you, and look for luck within the limits that are acceptable to you. It is quite understandable that you will not become a Cousteau if you are afraid to take a dip in the nearest body of water. But exciting novels can be composed about dangerous travels. You cannot dream of a career as a model if you are sixty meters tall and weigh under seventy. But who forbids you to become an actress (if, of course, you are talented)?
You can't want everything at once. You need to clearly define the field on which you want to play. For one, the gift of fate will be the place of an accountant in a good bank, for another - publication in a central newspaper, the third does not need anything except a strong family. Dreams come true if a person clearly knows what he wants.
Marilyn Monroe, making a successful career for the popularly beloved "star", bet not on the talent, but on the taste of the average American. She knew what they wanted to see and love her! Therefore, regardless of the Hollywood canons, I poisoned my hair with hydrogen peroxide, painted my lips very brightly and, with a fairly full figure, wore skirts - a bell. And she was lucky in her career. The greats Greta Garbo and Dina Durbin lived out their days in obscurity - Marilyn managed to become the dream of entire generations.
Payment for luck
Luck loves to be used to its fullest. A lucky chance has turned up for you - work it out to the end, otherwise it will turn into just a pleasant memory. But, as you know, you have to pay for everything in life. And for good luck as well. This lady is expensive and requires serious sacrifices.
If you associate luck with a career, get ready to sacrifice old hobbies, hour-long gatherings in the kitchen and Mexican TV shows. If all your interests are related to your family, you will have to put up with a boring life. If you dream of becoming a writer, get ready for material hardships. Second Galina Ulanova - to constant malnutrition and hours of training.
And the last thing. You can get tired of luck. And as a result, you stop rejoicing in success. Everyone has had to meet a completely successful person in life who no longer notices his own victories. For him, they have long turned into everyday routine work. And this is not ostentatious arrogance. No one has yet managed to climb to the top without exhaustion. Sooner or later fatigue sets in, and victories are perceived as part of gray everyday life. So we need to make a stop. Get used to the positions already taken and temporarily stop running forward. Who knows what opportunities fate will give you after. If you love your luck, it won't go anywhere.
Sometimes the desire to completely change your life comes without understanding how to do it specifically. If you find yourself in such a situation, look into your soul. This is the only way you will be able to draw up a plan for transforming yourself.
Figure it out inside yourself
Think about what specific nuances of your own life you would like to change. If it seems to you that everything around you is bad, maybe it is enough for you to change your own disposition and adjust your attitude to what is happening around you.
If you don’t like your job, you don’t have to find the newest profession. Maybe you should find a position with a little different functionality, then you can self-actualize in work.
Take care of your health
From time to time, a prerequisite for endless dissatisfaction is insufficient health and general ill health. You yourself have probably noticed that your mood depends even on how well you slept.
Get involved in strengthening your own health. Adjust your daily menu to include healthier foods. Avoid depressants like alcohol and nicotine. Do not forget about the need for physical activity and get enough sleep.
Organize a space around you
A cluttered home can prevent you from reaching your full potential. Get rid of old and unnecessary debris. Conduct an audit of all closets, balconies and dressing rooms. Some things should be thrown away, something should be handed over. Believe me, your life will certainly change, as you free up space from trash for new things in your own apartment and in your head.
Conduct categorical configurations
If you have made small changes and have greatly improved your life by staying in the same criteria, but did not get satisfaction, maybe you should make a larger change.
Moving to another city, changing home position, beginning own business, mastering the newest profession- here are the big configurations that will kickstart your internal resources.
Set new goals
Determine a range of new global goals and write them down carefully into smaller tasks. Without a clear reference point, it will be difficult for you to turn your life in the desired direction. Do not forget about your own goals. Think about them more often and do everything to get closer to their achievement.
Do not be afraid of change
The right attitude will help you to complete your enigma. It can sometimes be difficult to get out of your comfort zone, even if you don't feel your best in it. Remember that you are stronger than events and everything that keeps you from changing is only excuses sitting in your head.
Change your environment
The people around you influence your life. Even if you do not observe a direct relationship between your surroundings and the events taking place in your life, believe that the choice of friends and acquaintances must be treated very anxiously.
Only mingle with people you have something to learn from. Losers, whiners, brutal personalities will become unnecessary ballast in your life, pulling you down.
It is not easy when you experience the same worries every day, you experience gloomy thoughts, old and reappearing. It’s even harder to realize when you don’t understand how to change it. Where to start a truly positive, without internal conflicts, friendly and free life.
How to make you feel peace, joy and positiveness from outside world instead of anger and constant anxiety.
Everyone wants to simply and easily, and sometimes somewhere detachedly look at the emerging difficulties and problems, to understand the difficulties and do it with a cool head, and, therefore, with the greatest result.
How to change yourself
Perhaps you just need to figure it out how to change yourself?
You can of course do this. Perhaps you have already tried it, but unsuccessfully and already just believe in yourself. Believe in your thoughts consciously, but at the subconscious level - no. And this confidence is necessary for you first of all.
There is no real confidence that gives you inspiration and energy. The main thing is to start, and very important the first step you don’t believe will be successful... Nothing can be changed right away. The wrong attitudes are already ingrained in you. You can believe in something only when you feel, see the first, even a small result. This is the first and main step.
You can understand everything, be aware of and imagine what hinders us, and make your dream come true not capable, the question arises why? There is knowledge of how to live in order to live much better, but it is impossible to use knowledge. A large number of people have met or are in a similar situation today.
You have long ago realized for yourself what exactly prevents you from achieving harmony with yourself. But still, why such thoughts put pressure on you and prevent you from living normally. Why is this happening, and what to do now? There are very effective and proven methods for becoming different and learning to see things differently, change goals in your life and see yourself differently.
I am not a psychologist, where am I up to them, but I studied a lot at a certain time and used a lot. I myself was in some kind of viscous, viscous, gray, nervous, oppressive and incomprehensible state and absolutely could not figure out how to get out of it.
How can you change your life for the better. To begin with, a little psychology so that you can imagine the complete picture.
Immediately I will tell my friends that words won't help you! That is, the words that we repeat to ourselves, the conscious words that you have invented and thought about them more than once, naturally have power, but only at the initial stage. People are well aware of what is right and wrong. We repeat to ourselves that we understand, we will not think and do this anymore, since this is wrong and bad for us.
But after some time, and for most people, such words ultimately remain just words and thoughts. They are somewhere in the head, they do not disappear without a trace, but it is not clear why there is no benefit from them or it is very small.
The thing is that in addition to our consciousness, there is also a subconscious or an inner world that cannot be easily influenced by words. If you constantly repeat to yourself the same thing - “you have to do it differently”, “you can't do that”, “I only make it worse for myself” or “I’m sure that you need to do this”, etc., you will only torture yourself internally. struggle... Unfortunately, it will not work just like that to change something in our inner world or subconsciousness.
This world has been formed since our very birth. It was formed under the influence of some internal and external factors, influenced by numerous experiences, emotions and feelings. All factors determine our principles, beliefs and values.
You can realize that some of our beliefs not faithful, goals neither, grade different situations unsuitable for our future development. But still, we cannot simply take and change everything with thoughts and words alone (although thought is material).
What is needed for this and how to change your attitude to yourself, to life and to produce the necessary reassessment of values... It is necessary not only to understand and realize for yourself what you can be wrong and what your own beliefs are wrong, outdated and only hinder the achievement of success and personal development. You need tactics of using not only these thoughts and words, but also an effective weapon - imagination.
Imagination and gradual revaluation Total that exists deep within itself... Don't be confused with the thoughts in your mind. Perhaps you know the phrase: "It is not enough to comprehend the problem, you must also feel it, live it again, but in a different way" (something like this).
It is impossible to achieve the result immediately. If you want a quick result, take a potent pill, it will help for a while. Such transformations will take time, and a lot. It is gradual but extremely efficient and truly real method of helping yourself change unnecessary principles, internal goals and get rid of annoying ideas.
You need to scroll through your past and your whole life in the form of images - pictures, just change your tactics a little.
It is necessary to recall your past in detail, certainly with video - images imprinted in your memory. Keeping the feelings and thoughts of those moments. Experience the good and the bad that you felt and thought then.
Compare all the sensations with your current worldview, with a modern understanding of it. Scroll all this brightly and richly in your head, enjoying this interesting process.
When you scroll through your own past in video pictures with feelings and thoughts, you can easily pause moments and say to yourself (perhaps out loud): “How could I have thought wrong then”, “oh, and why did I decide that it was better for me "," what nonsense I got into my head then. " It should be with pleasant and good feelings and sensations in your head. If you are experiencing something pleasant, then something is already happening.
Do this daily or once every two days. But I advise you to do it every day, better after work in the evening, the brain then works differently, and can perceive new information. You don't need to in the morning, although many people believe that in the morning you are setting yourself up for the whole day. This is true, but in morning hours the brain is more rational.
In the morning, in fact, you need to tune yourself to the positive, to the good, and not to work within yourself, rethinking and reevaluating yourself and your own beliefs. Try not to load your head at all in the morning. Tune into good mood best of all with images of something colorful and light. Somewhere repeating nice phrases and words like, “I’m all great, no matter what happens there,” “Damn it, problems and the rest, I’ll better get pleasure from life,” or listen to pleasant music, but not sad.
And most importantly, many give up everything and remain with their meager world, because it is impossible to achieve quick result ... What to change for the better life takes time, friends! You yourself must change something inside, and this will not happen in just seven, no matter how you want it or you are promised somewhere.
You have to gradually reprogram yourself, or in other words, change your personality, your own "I". Daily will return past, obsessive thoughts, habitual beliefs - this is a normal process, you should not be angry with yourself for this, you should not punish yourself for the past, because in this situation it is the past that affects you so negatively. If you become angry with yourself, you will only postpone the whole process of changes necessary for you and your life.
When you come home tired, try to retire somewhere. Sit in a chair, throw away thoughts of what you have experienced for the whole day, make yourself comfortable. Close your eyes, concentrate on your feelings in your head, even if unpleasant - it doesn't matter.
Relax, feel all your sensations, here it is important to give your own brain a little rest. Stay in this position for a while, do not let any thoughts, you can imagine certain pictures that are pleasing to the eye, for example, about water, the sun, nature, animals, something relaxing and pleasant, the main thing is not to strain. First you need to rest and you don't need to evoke images, even if they are good. . Feel half asleep.
But if your head is overcome by any problems or negative thoughts, you do not need to resist them, let them go around, you just do not focus on them and do not solve. Sometimes you don't need to decide something at all.
Being nervous won't do you any good., but you can quickly get hung up on this. Be careful about this, you just need to trust your feelings and let go of the situation for a while. Incredibly, it often happens that when you let go of a problem, it can simply resolve itself, you need to listen to your feelings inside.
Continue until you experience some energy boost. Then you can already remember and replay in your head situations from the past, good and bad, compare them with the present, similar to the one described above. Imagine these moments vividly for yourself. When you replay all this in your head, you need to draw conclusions, rethink your goals. Become aware of the conclusions drawn easily and naturally.
Exercises
Gradually everything will settle in your subconscious, in small portions. Scrolling through old moments, reflect on fresh goals and how it was, if you had not tormented yourself with those stupid problems that hinder goals before.
The same should be done with negative and obsessive problems, thoughts and beliefs. Daily repetition and scrolling in the head of the same moments and situations with the addition of new ones from your past is one of my recommendations.
If you feel that you do not want to do the exercise, even if it involves stress, you do not need to do it, take a day or two rest.
Do not in any way be angry with yourself for, what the old comes back(it `s naturally) ... Many times do the above and plus ... patience... And also more positive, it is necessary in all events, albeit bad ones, to look for at least something positive, but not forcing yourself... If it doesn't work out, well, okay, next time it will certainly work out better.
Try to distract yourself from pessimistic thoughts by any, better practical matters, exclude all words of evidence or excuses in the head, which perhaps you will begin to seek for your own reassurance. Unfortunately, mere words will not do anything.
Finally, you must believe in yourself that you can, although it is difficult, but if there is no faith, then nothing will come of it.
Carving wood, knitting, drawing pictures without much thought are good calming activities to help let go of any negative thoughts in your head.
The following formula or picture will gradually take shape:
- old important beliefs and goals for your subconscious mind - long-standing important beliefs and goals that have already lost their importance for your subconscious- new beliefs and goals for your subconscious that have begun to be created - consolidation of new beliefs and goals set by you for your subconscious.
New and important for you over time will supplant the old, unnecessary from your subconscious. If you want and tune in, you will certainly succeed, friends! Defeat what keeps you from living happily. Tell yourself what you want change your own life and then take small steps and no doubt about it. Help here will be quite appropriate, because a good psychotherapist can speed up the process.
And not worth trying change life for the better, you just need to do it every day with some kind of action, because saying that I will try does not mean that I will do it.
There are very wise words to the question - "how to be happy or happy?" the answer is “be her”. Just be it.
Everything in this life depends only on you. Good luck!
A total of 30 books on the topic of practical and popular psychology, the release of 5 million books, a huge number of scientific articles on important topics in the field of psychotherapy and psychology.
We have collected 22 life rules developed by this talented psychotherapist that will help you not only improve your relationships and achieve success, but also turn your whole life around.
A well-planned result is the key to success
If all your actions are carefully planned, then naturally happiness will follow.
Stop being a theorist
Both mature and immature people have knowledge. The difference is that mature people turn knowledge into action, while an immature person only has to criticize everything around him.
Learn to live for yourself
As long as you try to prove something to others, you will live for them.
Nobody slows you down
It's just that some people know how to move quickly, while you live at a different pace.
Dream real
If you like to fantasize, dream of what can be realized. Don't waste time thinking about unrealistic plans and goals.
You are not a dollar to please everyone
If you try to please everyone, you can immediately prepare for a great failure. It's impossible. And there is no need.
The book is the best friend
Instead of spending time with someone you don't care about, spend those precious minutes reading. It will be more interesting and beneficial to you.
Be able to praise yourself
Anyone who does not know how to praise himself will certainly criticize everyone around him. Even if he doesn't have much to say about this person.
The question of feminine logic
The idea of the existence of masculine and feminine logic is in itself illogical. A person is either smart or not.
Pay the bills
If people are trying to make you feel guilty or grateful for their help, ask how much their services cost. Settle up and say goodbye.
Stop being dependent on the opinions of others
Someone who is truly happy does not care what others think of him.
Do not suspect others of all sins
Your biggest enemy isn't the one lurking in ambush, waiting for you to slip. Your worst enemy is yourself. And fighting this enemy can be very fierce.
Spend your time with dignity and benefit
If you really have an irresistible desire to get to the bottom of something, direct your aspirations to the study of philosophy or mathematics. Don't delve into other people's dirty laundry.
Ignore insults and criticism
The day you reach your goal, nothing will matter.
Don't wait and ask
If you are really hungry for something, try to be the one who can control it. Do not wait for mercy, much less ask permission to get what you want.
Happiness cannot be the goal
It comes from within and you can reach this state when you learn to enjoy life.
Talk to enemies
Talking to friends is undeniably very enjoyable. But only in conversation with enemies can you learn something new about yourself. Therefore, sometimes it is better to listen to enemies rather than friends.
Depression isn't just gloom
Depression is bad, scary, and unpleasant. But it is also an opportunity to look within yourself. Find out what makes you move on and what is holding you back along the way.
Relationships are for growth
If you feel like a relationship, romantic or business, is holding you back and holding you back from success, reevaluate it.
Do not be afraid of people
If you are afraid to talk to people, get rid of this thought. Assume for a second that the person can be positively disposed towards you.
Do not shy away from loneliness
If you are single, especially after a breakup in a romantic relationship, don't be alarmed. Loneliness is part of your maturity and spiritual growth. Plus, being alone with yourself can be much more productive than usual.
Don't be selfish
Never be too selfish in your own happiness. When you share it with your friends, happiness has the ability to increase. It becomes more - you see how your loved ones rejoice.
Based on materials: dailypositiveinfo.com
Sages say that the feeling of happiness is not given by momentary joy, but by general satisfaction from life, harmony in everything. But how to achieve this very harmony? Psychologists advise to draw a "balance wheel" first. It will clearly show in which areas you are doing well, and in which you need improvement.
Write down the main priorities of your life: family, work, health, money, hobbies ... The number of priorities can be anything, but it is more convenient if it is even.
Draw a circle with a dot in the center. From it, radial lines will diverge in different directions, like the spokes of a bicycle wheel. Each of these "spoke" is one of your priorities. Mark the lines from zero (center) to ten.
AiF scheme
Rate on a ten-point scale how satisfied you are with each item. Let's say you have a top ten job and a two in your personal life. Or vice versa. Put points on each axis and connect them in series with each other.
Ideally, the wheel should be flat and round. It’s even better if each item is in your top ten. It means that you are a happy person - everything is fine with you! However, if I got 7-8 points in each direction, that's not bad either. The wheel is round anyway! This means that everything in your life is balanced and harmonious.
It is another matter if the wheel is "punctured" in some places. For example, everything is fine in your family, your job is not bad, and your money is good, but your health is "C". So, set yourself a goal - to take care of your health. Break this task down into subtasks: sign up for the pool, run in the morning, start taking medications recommended by your doctor, walk more, sit at the computer less ... And systematically follow point by point. The same goes for the other "punched" axles. After a while, draw the "balance wheel" again. This time it will surely become rounder and life will be happier.
Philosophical way: looking for Ikigai
The Japanese offer their own recipe for happiness - to find Ikigai. It is difficult to literally translate this word, but in the Russian language there are analogues: purpose, realization, meaning of life, mission ... The Japanese believe that each person has his own mission. Someone can become a great scientist, someone - successful businessman, someone is an excellent mother, and someone is a talented artist. The sooner you open your Ikigai, the more opportunities you will have in this direction. And the sooner you will feel happy. After all, your favorite work brings joy, increases self-esteem, gives a feeling of satisfaction from life. When you are “on fire” with something, you have no time for depression and apathy - you want to get closer to your cherished goal as soon as possible: open your own business, have three children, build a house on the seashore, make a breakthrough in mathematics ... By the way, such “burning” "There is another pleasant" side effect "- it increases life expectancy. Therefore, it's time to remember your cherished dream and try to translate it into reality. It is not necessary to drastically change your life, you can go in the direction of your dreams in small steps. For example, if you work as an accountant and dreamed of becoming a poet, there is no point in giving up a slightly boring, but monetary job. You can still write poetry, as they say, "for the soul." And the future will show.
The fun way: go to hasya yoga
If you find it too tricky to draw a "balance wheel" or look for Ikigai, just go to the mirror and ... smile. It’s not scary if the smile turns out to be tortured and unnatural: the brain will still receive signals from the muscles of the face (“Smiling, then it’s good for him!”) And will begin to produce endorphins - hormones of happiness. True, the effect will be short-lived. Do you want to strengthen it? Sign up for hasya yoga, or, as it is also called, yoga of laughter. There are special techniques for "making" laughter. In the classroom, you will really be taught to laugh - just like that, for no reason: infectious, bustling, like in childhood. It helps to relieve nervous tension, forget about stress, anxieties and fears - or rather, ridicule them in the literal sense of the word. After classes you will feel free, elated and happy, and this state will remain with you for a long time. By the way, our general depression by stress psychologists in many respects associate with the fact that we have forgotten how to laugh. After all, laughter is an excellent means of relaxation: free, effective and always at hand.
Personal opinion
Sogdiana:
In fact, everything is in our head. You need to tune yourself into the thought that everything will be the way you want. And that's all! We are alive, our loved ones are with us, this is happiness. If you still find a business in which you can realize yourself, it will be absolutely wonderful.
